(Sharing a photo from a day that was less crappy!)
Wow guys. I don’t mean to complain so much. But this whole “parenting teenagers” thing is the shits!!
I’ve read so many books, read so many articles, listened to so many podcasts and followed so many mummy blogs over the last 10 years… who would have thought that it was ACTUALLY THIS BAD?!
I thought that maybe, after their very loved upbringing, their simple and down to earth early childhood years, their years of living with our strict/fair rules… maybe we got lucky with our teenagers?
Oh the fights! Oh the shouting! The constant nagging. The mood swings. The crazy emotions. It’s such a cliche.
This might actually be worse than the newborn, sleep-deprivation stage, or the crazy 4 year old stage.
My boys are 15, 13 and 9 and my biggest battles are:
1) Screen time + obsession with digital devices/gaming.
2) When they aren’t on a digital device, they fight with each other and are reluctant to do anything else.
3) Showing respectful behaviour with actions, especially when living with other people (ie. when you make a mess, you clean it up.)
4) Taunting siblings
Sometimes I get soooo frustrated, so angry, so furious, so ming-numbingly ENRAGED… I really do shout and shout and shout at them. Listing out what they did, how they could have avoided it, maybe used their brain, maybe thought about how to fix the problem, how pissed off I am, what happens now, what it all means. I go on and on. I just have to step back and walk away. This is not who I want to be.
I’m trying so hard to deal with them with less shouting.
More love. More patience. More humour. More hugs.
And more running!
I put on my running shoes, my music, and smash out into a run until my lungs burn and my body hurts. 30 minutes and I’m done.
Just need a break. A restart. Then back at it again.
It’s ok, I’m not looking for sympathy here. I’m not giving any advice either. Life goes up and down. Some days it’s really bad. Some days it’s amazing. I don’t need more articles to read, thank you!
Just sharing! I always feel good after a mum rant!