Trying for a baby isn’t as easy – or as fun – as most people think it is.

The reality is, when the PRESSURE IS ON, all notions of spontaneity, enjoyment and magic is lost from the moment.

As I mentioned in an earlier post, if you’re like us (trying to conceive a girl) trying to increase chances of choosing a particular gender is all about timing sex in relation to ovulation.

You already know weeks ahead, exactly what day and time you need to have sex. You have to mark it in your calendar. Put an alert on your phone. Write a post it note on the mirror. Add it to your To Do List.

Tuesday, 10pm – HAVE SEX!

Then when the day arrives, not only do you have to have sex. You have to have LOTS of it. Cancel dinner with friends. Forego your favourite TV show. Put the kids to bed early, because it’s baby making time.

After all, in order to increase the chances of conception, lots of sperm are needed in that small window of opportunity.

Twice a day? Again? Right now? Can you wait a minute, I just want to finish this crossword. Oh wait, let me defrost the chicken for dinner too.

It becomes a chore, not far from cleaning the oven, emptying the worm farm and picking up the dry cleaning.

Like I said, no magic.

Then again. Technically speaking, us women don’t really have to do much. It’s the men who do all the work. Their contribution is … small, but unquestionably important.

Us women are just supposed to lie still… but that’s next week’s topic!

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